Natural disasters can be frightening for children, even if they weren’t directly impacted. Seeing other kids hurt or displaced—whether in person, on the news, or online—can make the event feel personal and distressing. Even indirect exposure can leave a lasting emotional impact, so it’s important not to assume a child is unaffected. Here are a few ways to support them:
Natural disasters can be terrifying for children and families. They are often unexpected, unpredictable, and difficult to control, leaving behind not only physical destruction, but emotional distress as well. The impact can feel even more intense for children when they see that other children have been hurt, displaced, or affected. Seeing peers in distress can make the situation feel more real and personal. Children may begin to wonder, “What if that happened to me?”
Even if a child wasn’t directly involved, they can still be deeply affected by the event. Images on the news or social media, especially those showing other kids, can stay in their minds. Children also hear about these events from friends, siblings, or online. It is important not to assume a child is unaffected just because they weren’t there.
Here are a few ways you can support a child who has experienced or heard about a natural disaster:
During and after a natural disaster, we will often experience a range of emotions, such as grief, anger, sadness, relief, heartbreak and more. This is normal. Before talking with a child, try to regulate your own emotions as best you can. Children look to adults to understand how they should respond. This doesn't mean that we can’t show emotion, but it's important that the child feels comforted and supported by the adult. It means showing up in a way that helps the child feel supported and safe.
Take a deep breath. Find a comfortable place to sit. Consider holding something in your hands and plant your feet firmly on the floor to physically ground yourself. These things may seem trivial but focusing on your own physical regulation will set you up for a more regulated conversation.
Ask the child how they are feeling and not make assumptions. They may feel sad, scared, angry, relieved, grateful, terrified, or a combination of emotions. They may also say they feel fine. Whatever their response, it is important to validate it. The best response to their feelings is simply validation, such as "I understand why you feel that way. I would feel the same."
Some children may say they are okay or not respond at all. That is perfectly normal. Not every child is ready to talk about their feelings right away. You might say, “You might have some questions or emotions later. I’m here to talk about it at any time."
When starting the conversation, stick with simple facts, avoiding graphic details that can upset children, especially visual learners. Let their age and curiosity guide how much you share. A 6-year-old needs a different approach than a 16-year-old. Keep answers honest but brief, and trust your instincts to know when to pause or go deeper.
After something scary happens, many children worry about whether they are still safe. You can reassure them by reminding them of all the ways adults work to protect them at home, in school, and in the community. Even though no one can guarantee that bad things will never happen, it helps to talk about what safety plans are in place and what went well during the event.
If a child experiences significant emotional distress, consider seeking the support of a mental health professional. Look for signs such as changes in mood or behavior, diet, sleep patterns, hygiene or appearance, focus or emotional stability. If you recognize any of these changes, reach out to a licensed professional or contact Momentous Institute for additional resources and support.
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